Susana (6) - Feelin' Stronger Every Day

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Starsky - I'm probably the only weirdo who's ever gone into a DB call with full hair and makeup and heels. Lol! I'm definitely the most dressed up person in Starbucks.

Zelda - Lol, good thing you're not then!

H won't know what hit 'im when I go back. I'll head back in a minute because H is making me dinner apparently (he offered this a.m.) and I'm getting hungry.

Made a bit of a night of it and got myself a nice drink and spent some time before and after the call reading a magazine.

Just wanted to jot down a few notes from my DB coach call (unfortunately the connection was terrible and kept breaking up. Will not call from this Starbucks again. Noted.)

-It's important to have solid separate lives and feel fulfilled by other relationships outside our M, which is what we're building now, but down the road we might spend more time together because that's also important to an M
-It would be good to do some more things together now, since we've spent a lot of time apart lately (believe Wonka said the same!)
-DB coach and I made a list of activities to potentially suggest, including some free and cheap stuff
-Share stuff I'm interested in doing and try to pique his interest (for example a lecture I'm thinking of attending he might be interested in)
-I would like him to suggest an activity (outside the house, not something like last night making dinner together, although that was also nice) - coach said not to be discouraged if this doesn't happen because sometimes in couples, there is one partner (often W) who takes more charge of planning dates/activities. She said to focus more on signs of improvement in behaviour and she said there are plenty of those.

I tried to ask my coach the following question but the line completely broke up so I turn it over to the forum if anyone has any thoughts:

I think H wanted to go to the pizza place next week because he's blown his budget for this week and wants to save for his trip. So that leaves me with - do I suggest something free/cheap (or even just to make a nice meal - there's a dish I was planning to do some point this week anyway - and grab some beer/wine) tomorrow or Wednesday? Or should I leave it because I've already suggested an activity for next week.

Alright, just going to fix my makeup and put on some more lipstick before I leave Starbucks and go home. Ha!