1. I believe that nothing, I MEAN NOTHING,could have stopped what happened after she developed a EA or PA with OM. And I do not say this to be synical but it was her not me (W said this many times). Stop searching yourself for things to please her or reconcile - truly, truly, truly DETATCH. This didn't happen for me until she moved out and I went out and relized that other individuals are attracted to me and I to them...
Hrdtims, thanks for your insight. I have had a very hard time detaching and I have been very hard on myself about it. It is comforting to know why I am struggling with it so much: because I am still sharing a bedroom with W. Based on your experience, I now realize that the living situation will have to change before I can truly detach. Can one detach when you are living in the same household? truly?
Originally Posted By: Hrdtims
3. I did all the things in DB that you shouldn't once I found out she wasn't happy (didn't know why at that point exactly) pleaded, showed love, gifts, planned vacations in the future, pointed out how happy we were, ect.
Who hasn't!!
Originally Posted By: Hrdtims
4. At the end, I took measures to prove the relationship with the OM, which led her to move out quicker than I thought she would.
I am meeting with investigator to review evidence soon. How can I use this information to position myself better?
Originally Posted By: Hrdtims
Starsky had a interesting approach to his A.
Can you refer me to the specific post(s)?
Originally Posted By: Hrdtims
Those months aged me years...
I know how you feel. I just wrote something to that effect in my thread last night.
