Wife left me three weeks ago!

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I do feel more positive today. My wife has called once and wants me to now pick up the children because she has a house viewing appointment. She called a second time but I missed the call - and didn't call back. I don't mind getting the kids at all of course because I love my children dearly. I will take them back to hers and not initiate any conversation with her. I won't stay too long, and at the same time I am going to lay out my schedule for the rest of the week, when I will be able to look after the kids, and when I won't due to my new, other commitments.

I have an evening out with friends planned for tomorrow, I've been in touch about the language group to see how it operates, and I've arranged a golf game at the weekend. I am thinking of signing up to an unlimited cinema pass so that I can go to the cinema whenever I want (it would be the evenings after seeing the kids) so that I am not sat alone thinking things over endlessly.

I am going to see about taking the children out for tea one evening this week and maybe some bowling. I know that I mentioned this earlier. However, on previous occasions where this has cropped up I have also said to my wife she is welcome to come if she wants to. Well, no more! It's 180 time! This time I am not going to invite her. After breaking down momentarily one day last week at her parents' house when just the two of us were talking, I'm sure she still feels that although I have changed clothes, attitude etc that this is all an act and that in her own words 'I will try anything to weasel my way back'. I think maybe she sees the invitation as me still being slightly needy. Well, she may think that but the fact is that at the moment, although I do love her dearly, she has hurt me so badly that I would rather have some time alone and/or just with the kids to let the dust settle, be with my kids to have fun with them, and see if things change. This is going to be weeks and months, no short term solution on the horizon here.

She is moving on like a freight train regarding the house. She wanted a decision over the phone there and then this morning as to whether I wanted to buy her out or sell the house. I said I couldn't possibly decide over the phone and would need time to think about things. She wants her uncle to start decorating later this week. I think I am just going to go with it, let them decorate and get as much for the house as possible. At the end of the day it's just a house. I will come out of it with quite a bit of money and I can start to do more of the things I've been putting off over the years.

I'm off to re-read some of DR with the intention of implementing LRT from now on. The idea of it has already made me feel better, and I think detaching myself from her will also make me feel even better. I do hope things work out for the best in the end but I am not going to be a prisoner to the idea that it will any longer.