Nobody walks away from a relationship that has lasted that long if they are "normal" There's a problem with him, but it's not one that is going to be solved by you. And he may never solve it. That's sad, but it's his choice how he deals with himself. Don't be confused by the story.
AJ is on the money. I think most of us doubt the MLC story at times. But since my xh has faithfully followed the script I am inclined to believe it.
As to family - my xh now tells me that his siblings think he is autistic!! They do pass for normal until you watch them closely, and then the cracks show.
