Yeah, it wasn't fun to hear, but because I can see and feel my wife's personal despair, I didn't take the hurtful comments too personally.
I know I hurt her prior to BD, and I want to be here for her when she is in such pain.
So here I stand. Doing my best by her, and taking care of my own happiness. It's mostly all good. It's all about perspective. I remind myself that no situation is perfect. -------------------
As we do every weekend, my wife and I visited her elderly, widowed dad. He was excited to view his recent vacation pictures from his new digital camera on our laptop. He showed us some of the latest projects he's working on, and told us about his possible plans to move to a new area.
Later, while we were alone, my wife said to me "Dad always seems to have something to look forward too. I have nothing."
I asked her what she was going to do about that. She said she does't know.
Then we went to a home show, and talked with contractors about doing a master bath remodel. Had lunch and coffee together, and stopped at a dealer and looked at possible fancy new car options.
When we got home she made a nice dinner for us, while I fixed the 4 wheel drive on her aging vehicle. Said good night and went to our own beds. Bust On!
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
