W brought S back about 40 minutes past his bedtime. We are normally rather rigid on this. I said "I prefer him to be here by X:XX to get him ready for bed, especially if I do not know where he is." She started "I didn't know he was going to....I am the one who came up with that bed time..." It does not matter. He should be here on time regardless...I did not say this, unspoken understanding I would say.
After getting him to bed, we were talking in the kitchen. She first apologized for bringing S home late...good, she heard my boundary. We then started talking about what she plans to do.
She starts, "Well I guess I will just get here early in the morning and wait until my mom comes and picks him (S) up, I do not really want to change anything with her." I said, "well I can just drop him off over there in the morning like I used to do." She responds, "She might think something is up. I do not want her knowing anything, yet. Unless you have told her." I said, "Nope. I am letting you do that. I do not want a divorce, so you can tell everyone. She may pick up on it though, she does have senses like that sometimes. If they ask me something specifically, I will likely tell them to truth, though." I may actually just ask them to talk to her, then come back to me for confirmation to make sure she was truthful.
She said that she would just pick him up at the specified time and just stay with him as long as possible, at home. This would be until I get home, which is kind of whenever I want. Love that flex time. I have been enjoying hanging out with people after work recently. Quite nice.
She accepted the task of telling everyone, but she seemed very distraught the entire time. Realizing this is going to be a difficult task so soon after she heard her mother's "ultimatum." Not my problem. I was not trying to get them to take sides. They just kind of did.
Supposedly she got her phone account set up and working. A start to her independence....good for her. I did smile and say "Good." Probably not the best route. I actually am proud she figured it out, though.
