[123Gwen]

Bright- I can totally relate to wondering if MLC is the reason H left me or was I just not worthy of being married to after 25 years? Honestly I believe MLC is the catalyst and very real. It is also easy to use the label MLC as an excuse for bad behavior or as a reason to hang onto the M rather than focus on ourselves.

I think I love my H enough to let him go and now I am trying to love myself enough to quit giving him any energy (negative or positive). All my effort and time and emotion is best spent on the present and with the people in my life now. The heart of DBusting is saving yourself and that is never more true when dealing with MLC.

Bright, it's been a bumpy road and you've come a long way but your posts seem to imply you still have expectations. Try to let them go and free up some room in your heart for something even better to reside there.

You didn't imagine your M or your truth. Hope is not a bad thing if you don't use it as an excuse to shy away from living an independent life.