W came by to pick up S after his nap. She wants to spend some time with him and take him out. Bring him back for bedtime. I have a soccer game, so that works out just fine. Prefer her just staying here and playing with him, but cannot really stop her.
She came in, we were cordial. Told her some of the funny things our S did last night and this morning. She mentioned how clean ad nice it smelled in the house. She was always irritated when I did all of the cleaning...I may be a little OCD. She never really did it. Several weeks would normally go by when I left it to her. Same with the laundry. Probably did not ask her specifically enough to do these things. Then again, she has always had issues. Talking to my BIL (married in) he said that W's sister is the same way. He said that MIL apparently never enforced cleaning tasks with them. That she would just come in and do the cleaning. It is odd. I am a lot like my MIL. We do have a very good relationship.
She brought S out of bed to snuggle with him on the couch. She seemingly had a look of comforted relief. Maybe I was seeing things.
She did mention that she felt like I was holding him from her. I told her "I can see that, but I did not kick you out. You can be here and do what you want."
She said she was not sure how she could be here if she cannot use the services I pay for. I told her "I do not mind you doing homework here, or being here, but anything that is being used that ends up being disrespectful to the family, I can not support. You can pay for your own stuff for that." I decided I do not mind the education going on as I believe no one should be limited on that. She is paying for that herself anyway, just not the services she uses here at the moment.
If she does decide she wants to stay home, but is planning to ultimately leave, I plan to ask her to pay some of the bills, at least go part way on some things. If she is planning to be room mates, then that is how it goes.
