walk away wife after 22 years part 3

[South74]

Hi all.
Just an update on what's been happening .

Moving forward with the house equity buy out . As I suspected the minute I mentioned it all talk of doing for nothing was a load of lies and settled at a reasonable figure although I don't want to pay her a penny .
Getting agreement drawn up with solicitor at the moment.

Daughter has a slightly better relationship with Her mum but it's become a buy her affections relationship , which is sad .

Son seems to have become more distant from her again .

Just can't wait to get the house sorted even though it means adding 7 years back onto length due to new affordability rules.

[rd500]

Hi South. Good to hear from you How are you doing ? The house thing is tough but a least you are moving on and your only a young man Take care. Rd

[edz]

South!

I was wondering where you'd got to physically and in your sitch only a week or two ago. Fantastic to hear from you. Sorry to hear things are still causing you stress on the house front though.

Any changes in you? How's your life going?

Really good to see you post again.

Edz

[South74]

I'm doing good .
Had an encounter with ex and OM yesterday which she decided to ignore me . But OM looked like he [censored] himself was real rabbit in the head lights moment lol.
Maybe he didn't instantly recognise me because I've lost over 4 stone and been working out in the gym .
Some one mentioned it may have been that he saw me as a threat especially in light of his own lifestyle of cheating repeatedly .

That would have been the second time I've seen her in 5 months since she left .

Last time I just said hello and don't think she responded just stood there looking at me .

think ex has been testing the waters also . Little things in her texts about it's nice that we are being friendly and hopefully we can go to daughters shows together .
One about glad I'm getting the house sorted with a winky face and also a few xxs after some messages.
But I'm strong and don't even reply or in anyway reply in a similar way.

My sister thinks that I have complelty and utterly done everything my exw wouldn't have expected me to do .
And I think that has really helped me get to where I am today .
My sister recons exw was expecting me to pursue and plead and beg to come home but I didn't and she has ended up in a bedsit with this guy and for all my W saying I showed her nothing in the way of moving forward as a couple ,how has that worked out for her because I can't see how what she did was moving forward .

[South74]

South!

I was wondering where you'd got to physically and in your sitch only a week or two ago. Fantastic to hear from you. Sorry to hear things are still causing you stress on the house front though.

Any changes in you? How's your life going?

Really good to see you post again.

Edz

Really good enjoying going to the gym with my son and my relationship is going from strength to strength with him which I good .

I worked out just after Christmas that there was no point trying to get my S and D to do things together so I just make an effort to do things with them seperateky and it seem to have made things at home a bit more bearable .

Got one of them fitbit things called a surge . It's the best motivator for keeping active .
And active is good .

Will read your thread soon edz

[edz]

Sounds like we've been on a parallel with our S's in my case can't get him too excited about exercises but we go swimming together and he has extended stays with me now.

Current thread has a link to all the previous ones matey there's quite a bit (of my waffling way) journal led at least until the board takes a wobble again!

Was up your neck of the woods the other day on the way back from getting a pet fish (dont ask) and wondered how it had all been good to hear from you matey.

Cheers
Edz

[jim0987]

South!!!

Good to hear from you. Glad your doing OK, thigh I imagine you'll be doing better once you get the house sorted.

4 stone is a lot will definitely notice. Good work.

Its really hard to see how they think its a better choice than working on things would have been. But its their choice and we just make the best of it.

[Old Dog]

Hey South, it's really good to see your update. And good to hear you're doing well.

Four stone is incredible. You must be a bit financially strapped buying new clothes now, or didn't you throw out the old ones when you last that size?

[South74]

Hey South, it's really good to see your update. And good to hear you're doing well.

Four stone is incredible. You must be a bit financially strapped buying new clothes now, or didn't you throw out the old ones when you last that size?

Thanks

I've got a few new bits like a pair of jeans that are already to big lol.

It's nice to be able to wear some clothes that I've had for years that were a bit to snug but fit nicely know .

Although my winter coats are massive on me but gonna wait till next winter before purchasing a new one .

[Sotto]

South, just wanted to stop by and say Hello....another Brit here. From the Midlands though. Sounds like you are doing pretty well all things considered. That's an impressive weight loss - good for you! I on the other hand am pleased to have put 4lbs on. I lost a stone in weight (that I could ill afford to lose) after BD - but I'm gaining again now, which is great.

Nice to 'meet' you anyways....hope you'll keep posting :-)