hold on! - 8

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It has been an eventful weekend so far.

I'm not sure I am DBing at the moment, I am trying to take care of and improve myself. I still have a goal of saving my marriage. I still love my wife - though she is lost right now and things went off the rails this weekend.

most of this story is about W and little about me and very little about the kids. I may go on too long, but I need to write this so at least I can remember the details.

W manages the HR department at a production facility that is closing one of it's plants in two phases - Friday was phase 1's last day and some of the workers went out after work for a drink and invited W. She met them there (bar&grill type place) and had a couple drinks and talked to some of the guys that she had hired through the year.

(detail - OM was there, but she said he left when she got there as he should) - (detail - I was not aware of any of this, I was home with the kids thinking she just isn't showing up on a Friday which she hasn't done in a very long time).

While she was there, she went to the bathroom and one of the workers followed her and waited outside of it until she got out. He made advances at her which she declined. He pulled her into the men's room and continued making advances and grabbing her - she struggled and got away as a manager came in (someone in the restaurant told the manager). She ran away told another worker that she trusted and she just wanted to go home. He helped her to her car and she left - hysterical and crying.

(detail - friend texted W later (W showed me) and said that this man continued to hassle some of the waitresses.)
(detail - this man moved to another state today to start his new job. and W is relieved by this. Though she claims he wouldn't have survived with these men if he went back to work with them.)

On her way home, she was speeding and was in a car accident (rear ended a stopped car). She is not injured badly mostly bruises from the seat belt and air bag. A police officer saw the accident happen and was there within seconds. She was given a sobriety test, breathalyzer, and was arrested charged with DUI.

She called me when she got to the station - I could barely understand what she was saying because she was crying hysterically - this scared me because I have never heard crying like this before from her. She said to "come pick me up from the police station at 12:45 - XXX XXXX tried raping me". She said please just do that for me and hung up. I was scared and this didn't make sense to me so I went to the station and talked to an officer that told me the whole story.

I went home (wrote here) and went back to pick her up - payed her bond, fees and impound release fee. Took her home and she was sobbing the entire time. She showered and went to bed - I laid next to her planning the murder of XXX XXXX. it was a long and sleepless night as my mind swirled about the decline of our lives.

She woke up at about 4:00 and told me the whole story and I listened she cried and I held her. Of course I only cared about her well being from both the assault and accident.

Later in the morning, wanted to talk more about everything, she was asking for my help, she asked if I would stay with her through this. She told me many times that she loved me. She was ashamed and embarrassed.

I told her that I love her and can stay if she wants that - she said that has not changed.

(detail - she was staring at my ring that is still on my finger - spinning it and crying. If I were a mind reader, I would say she was thinking of what she has done to us).

We start talking about what steps need to be done and her mind was not functioning so she asked me for help with this. I told her I would do this.

Break......