Last night there was an important family event (on W's side) that I was un-invited to by W. This morning I've received a few messages from HER family members letting me know that my presence was sorely missed by the family and by the friends of the family last night, and that I was on their minds and in their hearts this weekend.
At least one family member made it very clear that many people discussed my absence and expressed sadness over it.
And one of the people who reached out to me today was one of the two family members who were the "stars" of the event last night (it was for the two of them). It says quite a bit that he took the time this morning to reach out to me to let me know that I was missed and loved -- especially since I know it was a very late night for everyone and I am sure that most family members went to a late brunch together this morning.
All of the messages I've received today mean a lot to me. But I also think the messages are a clear sign from God or the universe (whichever you prefer - I prefer to think of it as God) about this whole entire situation... it says quite a bit that her family members are reaching out to me today and that I was on their minds last night and continued to be on their minds enough this morning that they felt the need to reach out to me.
I received the last message right after spending a few moments in prayer asking God to continue showing me the way and to help me correct course if I am not supposed to stand (with loving detachment) for our marriage. And the last message was from a family member that I don't really communicate with very much, and who is also a minister. At this point though, the question is: Am I supposed to interpret those messages as a "yes, keep standing, but detach, let go and let God work, be still and know, etc." or am I supposed to interpret them as "let go and move on -- things may end with W, but these people will always be in your life because the love and bond between all you will always exist."...
Maybe I'm just over-analyzing all of this...
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015