Hi Sandi2, Thanks for the note. As far as boundaries and consequences are concerned, I am at a loss. I tried the boundary - not watching kids for you while you go out to the salon after speaking poorly to me/undermining. But I backed off in the end. I told her I would not watch kids so she could have date with AP. Held fast, so she said she would pay sitter (never happened due to weather). I have told her that I am unable to show compassion (she said she has cold), while she is in A. However, I guess only real boundary I have is the endgame (you end the A or I initiate D or I move out). All others appear to be illusory.
