Jbird#2 Separated Living Together Need Advice

[Jbird]

Thanks V!

I talked to a phycologist for about two hours. He was an employee of mine when he was in high school and college. So he knows our past struggles and now the current situation.
He said that my STBX is bipolar 1 and is in a full blown manic episode.

The trigger that started this episode was probably the hydrocodone she started taking in Sept. when her bulldog cracked her nose. The first sign was her making the vibrator video for me then sending the same video to an old classmate in Wa. state. The spending spree of $15k in a period of about three months was also a red flag. Then spiraled out of control by finding the dangerous convict and deciding to move to MT to be with him when he gets out of jail.

He said her life coach is not qualified to deal with her and because her psychiatrist doesn't know about all of her behavior he has missed the bipolar 1 diagnoses. To manage bipolar 1 patient's there needs to be a triangle relationship between the patient, the professionals and a loved one. This relationship keeps the patient honest with the professionals. With out the three way communication the bipolar patients will leave out bad behavior and lie about how they are really doing.

He said that her initiating sex with me right up BD is typical of someone having a full blown episode.

The rash on her body was most likely an allergic reaction to the cocktail of prescribed medication and adding various painkillers.

At this point there isn't much I can do because she is too far into the episode. If I would have realized the signs of a bipolar 1 manic episode beginning maybe the triangle relationship could have been forged.

He gave me this saying to repeat as much as needed. I didn't cause this, I can't fix this and I cannot control this! I can only help. (I don't know how to help, maybe just understanding more about bipolar1 will help me not take her actions personally)

Yesterday we went to my sister's house for dinner and a movie. Then my youngest brother and I went to a pub to meet up with a friend that I have not seen in 25 yrs.it was great to catch up with him.

Today has been rough as I am having to stop myself from making contact with STBX, SND20 and I have not seen her since we left Texas last week. She has not called either of us and only a few text messages.