Jbird#2 Separated Living Together Need Advice

[Karma12]

V is right JB....it will happen faster than you think. Life has a way of moving forward whether we want it to or not.

For me as time has passed it has become less and less painful to know my ex is with someone else. I know that he will keep repeating his behaviors he had with me because he has yet to do anything to change them. I certainly do not want to go back to being lonely and neglected in a marriage.

The part I found hardest for a long time was I had no one that I thought about or was attracted to in my life. There was a big void and I felt it. I purposely avoided dating or getting involved for a long time. I did not want to jump into something new as a bandaid. I knew I had to go through the painful journey of reflection and grief in order to prepare my self to be healthy enough to attract a healthy partner.

I was just thinking last week how different it is now to realize I am no longer thinking about my ex. I am now dating someone and it now his texts I look for and I am thinking about him instead of my ex.

You will have sad days....tears are healing. As time moves forward though you will find you will have less and less sad days. You deserve a healthy partner. One that you are not constantly worrying over. Keep reading....keep posting.