Survived the rollercoster by getting off it

[Karma12]

Hi all,

So I am still posting mostly so you can see there is life after a marriage ends and I check in and try to help others. I have been through two marriages in my 52 yrs and hopefully can share some helpful lessons I've learned along the way.

I had a great time at the convention last week. It was informative as well as lots of fun. We had a banquet that was themed "back to the 80's" I had so much fun styling my hair "big" like I used to back then. Lol

I am still in dating mode with my firefighter. He has been very sick though with bronchitis so I haven't seen him in person for almost two weeks.

I will share with you though how easily miscommunication can occur. He has been very good at keeping contact. He has been texting daily usually at least twice a day. I thought it was odd though that he hadn't tried to arrange a date this weekend and shared that with my girlfriend.

My friend jumped to the conclusion that he must be a player and should be asking me well before the weekend to go out. I said I don't think he's a player because there has been no ML between us just getting to know each other. She suggested I stop seeing him and tell him off. When he didn't respond to a text I sent for over 24 hrs I sent him a text asking if I had said or done something that upset him. This was advice given by my daughter who told me to ignore my friends advice. Lol. He then called me ( what's a phone call?lol) He had discovered his sister wasn't getting some of his text messages. She had called him when he hadn't gotten back to her. He then thought that maybe I too wasn't getting some of his messages so he called me. Sure enough I hadn't received quite a few messages. One was asking me about my plans for the weekend and another was telling me he was getting sicker instead of better and now had to go to the Dr. I thanked him for calling and clearing things up. He told me I want you to know....I like you a lot.....I want to keep seeing you...I'm not interested in anyone but you.

It just goes to show you that we cannot assume. If this had happened to my friend she would have told him off and written him off. He would have thought she was a freak and it would have all been based on miscommunication. I am thankfully my wise daughter was able to guide me. Lol What a switch! Hahaha.