This need not be the end.

[Sotto]

Hi Barry - I agree with all that you wrote until that last paragraph. That kind of negative thinking won't help you my friend. One of the big challenges of DB is to try and remain positive in the face of your WAS's absolute statements. If you start making absolute statements yourself, that becomes even more difficult. So I would encourage you to accept how you feel, but challenge some of your thinking on this. A more accurate picture would be.

She (feels) she doesn't love or want me any more (right now. This could change in time of course.)

She (may) move on, meet someone else and leave me behind. (Or she may not, I just don't know right now. I suppose I might do the same.)

I can't stop her (right now. But I can control myself and become the man I want to be. Who knows, she may get interested and turn around at some point.)

I've lost all that (right) now. (Who knows, we may be able to build a new and better R at some point going forwards. Maybe not, but I'll be ok either way.)

I guess I'm just trying to encourage you not to lose sight of reality in the 'hopeless' thinking Barry. Sorry things feel so tough right now, but you're doing really well and have come a long way. But we still see signs of the 'old Barry' as he first was on these boards. That last paragraph is one of them. New Barry is much more attractive....