This need not be the end.

[Barry]

Thanks for that 25years, for both the pointers on where I could have improved and for the cheerleading . I also thought that realistically, the outcome was as good as it could have been.

It's not a good offer, it's a [b]great[\b] one financially. If this were happening to someone I knew personally, or even someone on this forum, I'd be chiming in, saying to take the offer A.S.A.P.

Even though I know that W is offering this in a genuine attempt to do what is sensible, it still hurts for it to come to this. I've cried so much today and am now.

Legal stuff aside, it'll come down to me writing a cheque and cutting her loose. I know she's already lost to me, this is now about me agreeing with myself that it's over. I guess it's the same for a lot of people in that deciding about the house seems like banging the last nails into the coffin. It's your biggest tangible asset, it's a tie that binds.

Ultimately, if I do nothing or don't take the offer because of some fantasy that she'll change her mind, the chances are huge that in a few short months, the decision will be made for me despite any amount of DBing.
I know it's pessimistic, that's how it feels though.

I've already lost the R that we've both paid into for 22 years, if I don't make the sensible decision here, I'll also lose the house that we've - (but financially, predominantly I've), been paying into for so many of those years. WAW will get a lot more money, and the pain remains.

I know I need to separate my heart from my head in this.

Emotionally, I'm all over the place. I feel like a small boat in a tempest. Regardless of the figure on it, she wants out and the life I knew is over. I don't want this to be happening, but I have to accept that it is nonetheless. Realistically, she's not coming back any time soon, if ever. She doesn't love or want me any more. She's going to move on, meet someone else and leave me behind. I can't stop her. She's been such a big part of my life, of who I've been, of everything I stood for and of all I ever wanted. I've lost all that now.

I'm so upset I have to write that guys. I'll come back later.