My advice is don't follow family advice! Re-read chapter 1 of DR to see how unhelpful (albeit well-intended) family and friends advice can be...

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus