Fair point Jim! I think the wanting to tell him is worry that he may think I have moved on, when actually I would prefer to reconcile if possible. But that may be no bad thing!
And thanks for the point about the M already being over - it's easy to forget that sometimes. I do think if we were ever to reconcile, it would have to be from the ground up, as though we had just met, and start dating etc...then think of making new plans together. And I think we probably need to just get everything separated (tho ideally not D) now.
I don't really think telling him would make any difference right now. And I still have no idea about the A, so I think it's onward for now..As for the 'friendly contact' - i just don't know. I felt I offered him quite a bit of kindness last two weeks - an email about losing his job another one in response to his R/money email. A text to see how he is, a birthday card, and a HBD text. And after all that, he's been dark for almost a week, without responding to any of the R/money stuff..
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
