H feels abandoned, or so he says, so last night made a roast dinner.
Started with my arrival home with the shopping, I had bought Easter eggs for the grandchildren.
H : why have you left this shopping loose in the car? for gods sake? H stuffs the shopping in a bag and crushes Easter eggs.
V STFU
Then V brings in the roasting tin which has been draining in the garden
H: I hope you are not going to use that? You are disgusting!
V STFU
Then
V: what vegetables would you like? Cauliflower cheese? H: it's too late for cauliflower cheese, that's a big meal, I do not like eating this late. I have told you blah blah blah Spew spew
V: H stop. Stop. Since I have come home this evening I think that I am being abused and It has to stop. I can chose to cancel the roast and do something else. pasta perhaps? H: I want the roast V: Ok without cauliflower cheese
Then H went to the pub for an hour and a half. We ate Then H went to watch England play
V feels abandoned, another boundary breached.
This morning
V: Ican I talk to you please about last night? H: OK V: I felt adandoned last night, I cooked a meal for us and you went to the pub and then watched the England game. I had the opportunity to go out, in future if you have your evening planned please advise me and I can make other plans. H: OK seems resonable, V: you can put it on the calendar. I put my movements on the calendar H: I do not look at the calendar V: that was what we agreed a week or so ago H: I do not remember that
H has gone to golf.
Enforcing boundaries is hard.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
