Thanks Edz, on the area thing, I don't think either of us would go back to our original area. We liked it, but it just didn't make sense for either of us any more. It is a 3+ hour commute for H to London from there.
At some point, if we want to be together, we'd need to make a location decision. And it depends partly on H, partly on SS, who's in the NW and partly on me. We could move to where I am, which is an hour's+ commute to London. And we had originally talked about that between EA discovery and BD. But H wasn't that keen on having that kind of commute every day, which I can understand.
His big thing was that he wanted to be home every night, rather than away 2/3 nights a week. His preference would be London I guess, which is good for work, but not ideal in terms of SS. I don't relish the idea of moving there, and it has negative associations right now. Plus, I would be giving up a 'hard won, rebuilt' life here. So, there would be lots to work through and it is a barrier we'd need to get past - but not insurmountable if we really want to. London isn't an absolute deal-breaker for me. Although, I can't see I'd want to live in our flat - where the A was conducted....ugh...
On the contact thing, I plan to stay a bit 'dark' right now - as H has gone quiet after our little flurry of contact recently. If I don't hear from him in a couple of weeks, I'll see how I feel at that point. In the meantime I'll keep on re-reading DR and hone up on the various techniques in anticipation of further contact between us.
Have a good day Edz...what about more of a GAL plan for the times S isn't with you....I'll post on your new thread as I have some more thoughts too....
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
