You are welcome RH, and thank you for all the help you've given and continue to give me! I wish we could meet up again.

Update...

Today my wife and I had it out. She is still in deep turmoil, and not happy with her life or me. She was in tears and said some hurtful things, like how she works way harder than I do, how I have it easier than her, and that I'm "in my own little world". Also that we have no connection and never did.

I validated as best I could, while also expressing my true feelings. My plan is to be open, and tell it how it is. No games, no withholding. What ever happens, happens.

I said that we don't talk enough to have a great connection. Sure, we talk, but mostly trivial day to day stuff, not from the heart. I reminded her that 3 years ago (!) she said she wanted to "be independent" and do things for herself. Also that I told her up front I would give her the space and time she needed.

I said none of this is what I wanted, but that I accepted it... for now.

She told me many of my shortcomings, and how I let her down... stuff I never hear unless we get into relationship talks, which only happens a couple of times a year.

I accepted the criticism that I felt was valid, and stood up for myself if it was not. All while trying to not get into convincing roll. (because that never works) I also told my wife I was doing my best for her, and would continue to for as long as I could.

Afterwards, everything was back to the "new normal"... living as friendly roommates, playing house and doing things for each other. I can't help but believe we both still want each other.

I also can't believe it has been almost 3 years since BD. I often wonder what the future holds.

Last edited by ForeverYoung; 03/01/15 08:00 AM.
M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl