I did this for me in truth. It was wearing on my and my mental makeup. I have let go and going to live for me. I will have nOthing else to do or say about this entire sitch with her. It's hard sticking to something that is dragging me down as well.
I get this^^.
And sure, Starsky might be right in terms of her making more demands though I can't imagine what's left for HER to demand. Plus I'm not sure how you could claim to have dropped the matter & moved forward, while also holding onto it.
I think you CAN control a lot more from this moment forward, b/c now, You dropped the rope. There is nothing for HER to resist from you. You stepped aside.
You are moving forward...
(Though for the life of me, I'm confused as to why she thinks OM will be an improvement, if he's in the military as well, since he'll eventually be sent somewhere...The relevant part is about the marriage you had and is for YOU to determine.
HER not being happy with OM's military career, is Not YOUR problem.
As for telling your friends not to speak to her, did I read that right? IF so, I"m Not sure that will work OR appear to show how detached you are.
Don't you look forward to not caring if someone brings up the topic of her?
Just so you know, the more challenged and ostracized she feels, the more pushed into his arms she may also feel. Like it's her and OM "against the world"
We cannot tell you what might get your wife back. We only know that what you resist, tends to persist.
She said she wants space in order for her to decide (SEEMS as if she's acting like she has not chosen OM, so much as "just wants to explore it"??? Yeah well....)
but the thing is, now all You need to do is decide how you want YOUR LIFE to go.
So, back to YOU...how are those 180s and GAL?
Keep up the great work. You are going to make a great h someday, and we can hope it's with her.
But I think what we truly hope is that it's with a woman who "really gets" you...and that you continue on your path to being the best man you can become. The two of you will make a great team.
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