Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Kramer]

I don't want it to seem like my emphasis is on divorce. It's not. More than anything, I want to reconcile with my wife. I am simply trying to protect myself, but my goal is to get my wife back. As I mentioned previously, this whole process has been so fast. Just a few short months ago, we were in a loving (I thought) relationship, and now she is in a full fledged affair, staying with him on weekends, filed for divorce, and moving to her own place. It's really quite dizzying.

The thing is, I can't compete with OM. He drives a Maserati and a Benz, lives in a mini mansion, and can afford to treat her like royalty. Even before the split, we made good money together but had lots of bills. With the split, there are even more bills, and neither one of us is going to do well financially. All I can offer is 17 years worth of history and memories. My STBXE was always down to earth, frugal, genuine, and family first. Since affair, she has become materialistic and completely deserted both her and my families. She was an awesome grandmother for my children's children, and they adored her. She has not called or contacted them since I discovered her affair on New Year's Eve. They are as distraught as I am.

3 months ago, I would have described her as the perfect wife, mother, and grandmother. Now, I don't even recognize who she has become. And yet, I would give anything to have her back. Sigh... This [censored].