Part 14 - Contents may flip without warning

[edz]

Just ate two whole green ones two chilli's two pork steaks and rice with chilli sauce. Mmmmmmmmm

Oh and a bottle of viognier Chardonnay also mmmmmm

[rd500]

Hi Exz. I'm home with the kids. Chilling and watching the tv. Great news on your clothes Your doing well. Your interactions with your W are positive and your W always seem comfortable around you. For me that's a great start and something to build on. I quote my L/C a lot but she always talks about the connection between people and how important it is Your interactions with your W , the new ,improved Edz and time You have complete control over the first two and you are doing great. The last one cannot be controlled so you (we) have to learn to let it be. Life hardly ever turns out as we expect so try to stay positive, look at the end result and not the journey to get there Nothing is ever over until you decide it is.

Take care, Rd

[jim0987]

And yet normally your cooking sounds appealing......

Thats really good news about the wardrobe though.

You W will talk to you if/when she's ready and she knows your there for her when she is. I suspect you won't get any warning though.

In the meantime patience and expectationlessness (yeah, its a word - sort of) and some technik Lego for Mr fixit.

[Sotto]

Can I join in the guy chat? I'm also not out GALing this pm - although I was out GALing for the day at my workshop, which was good.

I would like to vote YES for peppers...I love them - romano, chilli, ordinary yellow ones...I had a lovely lasagne with peppers in tonight, kindly made for me by one of my Mum's carers, who's a great cook. She makes big batches and brings some over - and well, it would be rude to refuse...

Eds, great news about the clothes - good for you! It's always worth trying on the smaller size. Well fitting is always more flattering than baggy.

Another thread coming to an end eh? Well, that's more time passed and more learned and practiced. And a step towards a resolution of some kind too.

You say that you are just chugging along - well that's just fine. We always need to remember the two great warhorses of this approach - time and patience. Yes, we learn new skills and approaches and we put them into practice too, but time and patience are so important....you're doing really well I think! :-)

[edz]

Thanks rd.

I still have a way to go. I honestly didnt realise how far I'd gone but thats depression for you!

Waist has gone down nearly 10 inches now but I'm still not sylphlike got another 5 to go. Trying those on today points to the thighs being the issue I'll keep working on it though.

I'm waiting on w being available to talk that will set a destination as to whether I continue to stand or move on but for now I just need to be patient.

Thanks

[edz]

Hi toots, hi Jim, all welcome in my thread.

If it locks keep an eye open for a new one!

Thanks for saying I'm doing well its often difficult to know, since I tend to judge success against reconciliation or moving on (wrong obviously its stabilising and improving ourselves but who can easily judge those results themselves)

Let's see where thread 15 will get me to tears laughter and probably more bottles of wine I imagine.

[jim0987]

Your always welcome toots

If I lost 10 inches from my waist I think people would mistake me for a low budget sci fi alien. I'd be able to use vanillas bed socks as a sleeping bag though.

I know war horses a good but a nice thorough bred racer my be quite nice as well.

I think where I differ slightly is I don't think time is one of those horses. Patience definitely is but I think personal growth is the other one though it needs a better name. There is probably some yogic word for it but in the absence of knowing what that is and until some one has a better suggestion I'm going with Reginald.

[Sotto]

Why don't you think time is a huge factor - MWD cites time, practice (apply techniques etc) and patience as 'the big three.' And I know this because I'm re-reading DR as we speak, and I just read that!!

[edz]

Time and patience here practice of techniques I get wrong at times.

[jim0987]

Its not I don't think time is a factor, it's a huge factor but I don't see time as working for us (like a war horse), time just is.

If we don't learn to use our horses then time can be a factor against us, for example if we keep riding the beg and plead horse.

I do need to reread DR though as its been a little while (actually my reading has dropped off a bit).