W still having affair with OP #2

[4mendmj]

I was just re-reading my threads as sometimes the advice you got 2 weeks ago was not only valuable then but now as much or more. The #1 thing I am doing better at in the month of Feb. is I have no played my hand a single time...IE. I have not slipped up and chased or said "look at my changes" or anything like that. My mood or desire or stamina comes and goes but the front that W sees is rock solid. Big improvement for me vs. previous months.

Another thing I notice, I need to stay away from the wayward side threads on a different site as it is all the stuff I dream someday happens where W pulls head out of rear and we are working on our marriage etc. and I think I have figured out one of my triggers. Hope is a dangerous thing.

Back to me. D6 and I are going to my folks place this evening for supper. Starting to get comfortable just telling W that D6 and I are going and that she is welcome to join. She never does join but I used to simply dread even telling her and now I just notify her via fb messenger a day ahead of time or whatever that we have plans and leave it at that.

I also noticed my patience has improved with D6 in the last month vs. post-BD months where I was a wreck yet still primary care-taker. In that respect, DBing is literally putting my life back together whether I stay married to W or not. I lose sight of that because I see no progress from W but frankly, I re-read my thread and have been reminded twice now (my apologies) that this is about me.

Puppy dog/starsky...I was reading the old thread of officer in need and finally made it to a post where you bolded him saying her/she/W etc a hundred times and literally snorted....knowing you have done that to me

Thanks all
4mendmj

PS... MJ is nickname for D6 and this is truly for me and her no matter what.