Sounds like you did well. Sorry your w can't seem to "let go" of the issue.
IF the command asks you, I don't see how you can object (you can say "I no longer care" b/c if you don't say that to them, how can you tell HER what you said about wishing her well and detaching?)
HOWEVER/CAVEAT
No, I would not pick up a pen or a phone (b/c you know, they're so heavy...) to assist them. Good grief.
It's one thing to gracefully step aside (to let her see that the grass is greener --- on the side that gets the water!),
but quite another to guide her into his arms. ("W, I said I'm letting you go. But calling the command FOR you is really asking a bit much. Good luck" and if you can, attach a happy face....)?
So, back to YOU...
and what's all this talk of bourbon with no discussion of Elijah Craig, or for the more reasonably priced Wild Turkey (Kentucky Spirit)?
Just my .02
(or in the case of Elijah Craig's, that's about all of my "Special Occasion Booze" money)
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
and if you can, attach a happy face....)? 
