The awakening of me Part 3

[mleigh4]

Looks like I have become a member of the spew club. I wonder if Cali can let me know where he got his spew jacket? And do they run in small?

The homework saga continues: Thursday I let H know that the homework was not in S folder and asked if he had it. H answered yes and that he would bring it over later. S and I have dinner, do his other homework, and it's getting later. The missing homework is a reading log with an additional reading assignment attached with questions to complete. At this point, I am thinking we will just not turn it in for his first time, but not the end of the world.

At 8:50, H TM that he had gotten stuck at the house waiting for the bathroom remodeling guy to finish but was on his way. ( The house is falling apart so lots of repairs going on)

So I replied that it's really too late for S to do his homework, that I will ask teacher if he can make up, and that he should have let us know that he was stuck so we could have gone and picked it up.

Here is where the spew comes in...

He responds "why didn't you just tell me that earlier?"

I reply, "tell you what?"

H says, "that there was homework on it? ( that one just cracks me up. What did he think we needed it for?) I just saw it sitting on the table this morning so I didn't look at it because I figured he knew what his Thursday assignment was...and could do it from the book...and I would just bring it over after the handyman left. Earlier when I said I would bring it over later you could have just mentioned that you had homework actually on the paper and I would've brought it over right away. Well I will be there soon either way and it's not yet 9:00 so I'm sure he can get it done before 9:30 when he normally goes to bed."

At least I can laugh about it, right? At first I took it personal, but that feeling left as fast as it came. His thinking is so irrational and blaming that I actually feel sorry for him and anyone else he may be treating this way.

I did not reply and was cordial when he came, I did not say anything about it. Like Jekyll and Hyde, he was perfectly pleasant. He sat down with S and did the homework with him. While S was rubbing his eyes and trying to do his homework, H kept asking him questions about his upcoming bday. S was getting annoyed be cause he is tired and trying to finish his homework, so then I sense H starting to get annoyed so I just said, it's getting late, let him finish his homework first. I said it nicely and after We even had good conversation. Then he laid down with S and rubbed his back, a pre bed ritual they had, before he left.

He had circles under his eyes, not sure if it was the lighting, and he looks really tired. I see anger from him coming more and more directed at me. I am keeping in mind, since his move out a month ago, that it will get worse before it gets better. That appears to be exactly true.

We were H free Friday night and it was glorious. I am so happy, having my home to myself. It's been a wonderful first month.

S turns 8 on Tuesday, so he is having his best buddies over for a sleepover tonight. I baked a cake and am making sliders and snacks. Yummy! H says he wants to be here for the festivities. Since he only spews on text so far, it should be fine. Looking forward to a loud, fun and sleepless night!