Wife left me three weeks ago!

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Thank you both again for the advice. I do feel like I'm slightly coasting at the moment, not making things worse anymore but at the same time not sure if I'm doing enough to make things better. It's hard isn't it? So far being nice to my wife has gotten the best response, even if there's been a lot of other stuff thrown in too. I have just taken the kids back to her. She seemed quite happy to see me. She was the most friendly she's been in fact. Now, I wonder what the reason for this is. She is going on a night out this evening and so is probably happy about that. After not wanting me to mind the kids all week she said I coukd have had them tonight. Clearly this is because she is out tonight. I don't want to be the on call babysitter. I did say, ah well, you should have said' just to be nice but I am not infact minding the kids this evening. The other woman ny wife is going out with this evening is a fellow mum from our kids' school. Previously in better times my wife has pointed out how outrageously flirty this woman is on a night out, despite being married. I am worried she will push W to have fun and meet someone else. Not a lot I can do about that I know. It does seem early in separation for W to meet someone else.

So a mixed result really, W did go and look at another house but pulled a face over how much it would be in rent for what she would get. I can see her taking a while to find the 'perfect' place. Good news as it gives me time to turn things around. I am worried about the nights out though. She was happy it seemed to see me but probably not for the reason I'm hoping.

I did notice her weighing up my new clothing as we chatted, so it is getting noticed. She did ask why the grim face as I left. I said because it's hard to leave the kids in this situation. She said, there's not a lot we can do about that, but said it in a slightly different manner than previous times, no anger, a slight sense I detected of something else. I am not sure what though. She is a stubborn person and I do wonder if she will plough on regardless with the path she has started down even if she has regrets but because she wouldn't want to appear ti have made a mistake. Second guessing is no good, I know.

Finally, I suggested I would take the kids out tomorrow again. She said, yeah, you can. I wonder if she'll come. She played it like I could do what I want but she's not interested. I think she is though, and I think she will come. Let's see. It's maddening wondering whether things are going forwards, backwards, or are static...and not really knowing for sure.