Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Kramer]

Newest update:

STBXW supposedly has a place and has move in date of March 1. She is still spending weekends with her boyfriend, including this weekend. She has a few boxes packed, but I'm not sure how or when she is actually going to move. I mentioned earlier that her 17 year old son will live with her. The 19 year old twins have moved out and her 23 year old son wants nothing to do with her. Her 18 year old niece is disgusted with her, and will live with me. I have decided to stay in our old house when my STBXW leaves. I'm staying with a friend now.

I still have yet to be served divorce papers, although there is a process server calling me, so I know they are coming. Papers were filed by her on January 9, and I believe she only has 60 days to serve them in California before they expire.

Even though I'm staying in the house when she leaves, I don't trust her. When she was at work, I hired movers to take the furniture that we had agreed would be mine, and placed it in storage. I also withdrew half of the March rent from our joint account and paid the rent. When I had mentioned getting my own place last month, she was adamant that we were both on the lease at our house and each obligated to pay half the rent until lease expires. Therefore, that same thing holds true if she decides to move, right? Once I change the lease over to my name only, I will pay the total amount. That is currently in the works.

I worry that the above measures come across as controlling and vindictive. In other circumstances, I may even agree. However, she has filed divorce and is moving out AND still with OM. therefore I feel a need to protect my finances and assets. Am I wrong?