Masterpiece still in progress...

[Jer2911]

My parents divorced, but... my sitch was a little different....

My parents separated, got back together, divorced for 10 years and are now remarried.

OMG - Mighty! My parents divorced when I was 5... Dad remarried someone else and mom was with someone else for quite a few years THEN dad got divorced from 2nd W and mom and boyfriend split up AND THEN my mom and dad remarried each other (7 years in-between divorce and remarriage instead of 10 in your case) then got divorced again about 9 years later but now live right next door to each other... So you and I do have more in common!

OK, Jer... I think I have embarrassed myself enough here. Keep going. Keep doing the work, and YES! discuss it with your ic. It is a great opportunity for growth.

You are doing amazingly well. Good for you! Keep it up.

Thanks!

Actually just got off the phone with my mom and she confirmed a lot of what I was thinking... and remembered more incidents that I didn't remember that confirm my thoughts on this... She also thinks I'm on the right track with this and said the same thing you did -- bring it up with my C at my next session and see where it goes.

Had a great chat with my mom about my dad, their marriage, her boyfriend who I did think of as a stepdad even though they never got married, and my relationship with my dad. Fortunately my mom and I have always had a great relationship so the only parental issues I have are related to my dad -- but she did acknowledge the need to have a talk at some point in the future about her relationship with my "stepdad" because she said she knows I had issues when they broke up and she wants me to have a better understanding of what happened with all of that. I told her we could do that, but assured her that I've gotten over any anger or bitterness about their breakup and I don't blame her for any of it -- that as an adult now with a few relationships under my belt I've got a much better perspective on it.

Feeling pretty good right now...

Another update related to me and my process -- continuing to feel much stronger faith that God really is working on this entire situation. I can feel God working in me every day and I am starting to see how God is beginning to place some signs and possible obstacles in my W's line of sight... If only she would wake up enough to see these messages... I can't do that for her though, so I'll leave it to God to continue to place those signs, messages, and obstacles out there as He sees fit in order to continue to try to guide my W towards the path He has for her. It just helps me feel stronger in my faith to feel God working within me and to see these signs & messages that I do believe are designed to eventually guide my W in the right direction for her process through her MLC.

I just know that God is working on this and I just need to get out of His way so He can work... I just need to continue to work on me and follow the path He has for me during this very difficult journey. :-)