Sure he did. At the moment HWW entered the picture. You didn't hear it, it seems. But you do now and that's good enough
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And one of my friends who offered has rallied a couple of his friends, one of them is an electrician
One of the things I've been able to witness via this experience is something that I've always known. Life happens, but it seems we always find a way or are given a way, to make things better. Seems this might be yours if it comes through. Reminds of the Beatles, "I get by with a little help from my friends." Maybe without the drugs though
You are not dumb by any stretch of the imagination. Just have things to deal with that you'd prefer not to. Keep that perspective, Mighty. Look on the bright side of things - you know where things stand. You know it hurt. You know it hurts your kids. But you don't have to guess at any of it. You don't have to wonder, except as to why he will do the nutty things he'll do from time to time.
It's ok to shake your head, smile, and move along. As if you're watching a dog peeing on an electric fence for the third time (get that image out of your mind!)
If you take away the things that he has or is doing, you're left with just...life. Things you have dealt with in the past and things you'll deal with in the future. Some are repeats (electrical, remodeling, etc) and some are new. But all of them you are equipped to handle when you get your mind right.
If you look at as he is gone (he is) then you'll see that for things you used to rely on him for require new solutions. What a nice challenge, when you step back and look at it. And you are more than capable of doing whatever comes up. You have a lot of experience with trying and even failing fast at things. And you've succeeded before and will again.
Because that's who you are. We've seen it before
One thing at a time, Mighty. Be objective and take some of the emotion out of it.
Find a man? I doubt that'll be a problem when the time comes. But I suspect you have enough to do for now, without kissing frogs for a while, right?
One thing at a time, let's take the focus off of ex and that circus, and let's put it toward the things that you can control and the things you find important. Look at yesterday as what happened and not like it still is. One thing at a time...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
