Continuing DBing

[PeterV2]

I had printed out that NC letter and had it in my back pocket. Sat down to talk to W about NC with OM. Didn't go well. She doesn't want to hear about me needing assurance of NC. She just wants to focus on her daughter's upcoming wedding. She wants space to find herself and enjoy this upcoming event. She says I'm just pressuring and nagging and trying to get my way for every possible angle. She accused me of on-line trolling for women again. I told her again it was just one week in Jan 2014 while she was sleeping with the OM. She got extremely stressed and weepy. I said many people keep telling me just to divorce my W, but I'm choosing to try to save the M. She said, maybe I should just divorce her then. I said that's not what I want.

All in all a big ball of stress and she left to go shopping with her daughter for the wedding.

Called my MC and tried to resolve my fray emotions.

Ended up deciding that for the sake of our daughter I won't do anything to sabotage her wedding. I want her wedding to be a joyous event and don't want a messy divorce of her mother to interfere with that - and it certainly would. So this is the text I sent my W:

D & F's wedding is really important to me too. I want their day to be filled with happiness and hope. I want the whole process leading up to that happy day to be joyful and fulfilling for everyone, especially you. I know how important it is to you and share your excitement.
So for the next five months I will not discuss our relationship or apply any pressure to discuss it. Truce. I will be civil and loving and respectful.
During that time it would be greatly helpful to me for you to stick to the no contact position you agreed to and although I have no way of confirming I will just trust you to stick with it.
So I will not mention that again.
Have a fun day with the kids and give them my love.
Peter

Haven't heard any response yet.
I'll just have to detach and GAL. Welcome to continuing limbo. :p