You may have already been told about this but its relevant.
There was a lab experiment with two sets of rats. Both sets were taught that you press a button to get food. Group A got good every time they pressed the button. Group B only randomly. One day they switched off the food and put it elsewhere in the maze. Group A quickly learned that it stopped working and went elsewhere, group B kept on pressing the button expecting the next push to give food which it never did.
Actually it reminds of a book about change called 'who moved my cheese? (Calm vanilla and edz, metaphorical cheese)
Any way occasional scraps of love and affection which we got used to rather puts many if us firmly in group B.
The NVC stuff is really interesting - I need to watch more.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
