Its seems clear your W wants to say something but she may not even know what that is. It's frustrating for me so I can't imagine how you must be feeling.
There is a squirrel metaphor somewhere on these boards which seems appropriate right now. When you said you don't need an excuse I think you might have startled her
dont make an excuse I dont need her to
I'm nit picking but when you said this there is a bit of jackal in there in that it is combatative and leans toward negative. It shows your frustration and if she is apprehensive in anyway (which it seems she most definitely is) this could be enough to alarm her.
You may have been better with something more like
Its important to me to hear what you have to say but I want you to be comfortable about it and so when you feel ready to talk then we can make some time and I will be ready to listen.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
