I read some hints that one guy won his W back by being her best friend... Any women that could provide advice, I'd greatly appreciate it.
I'm not a woman, but I would say that if a sexless marriage and lack of attraction have been a problem (and I just read your thread), then I wouldn't suggest this approach. In fact, I'd recommend that you lean toward the OPPOSITE -- "alpha" male (while not being a d*kk or anything), a little aloof, mysterious.