Newbie needs advice and encouragement

[Zelda09]

http://www.divorcebusting.com/a_while_spouse_decides.htm

So much of the good advice here is geared to LRT and going dark. I think this is a nice example that sometimes...after some space FIRST...there is room to love at a respectful-to-yourself kind of distance.

My sitch was nothing like this but I kept coming back to this man's account and the story of Carol and Dean in DR to see how to love through anger.