Sorry it's been a bit of a tough evening. That's all a bit odd from your W isn't it? Hard to make sense of it, other than she sounds rather conflicted right now. You on the other hand are applying logic (fixing?) - Well, if we want to talk, we can do X or Y. But she isn't taking the bait for some reason.
The 'I'm not going to fade away' comment is interesting too. It's like your W wanted the S, but also wants you to be pretty 'available' - for example to help with IT problems. And you're a nice guy, so you do. (I miss my H's IT skills actually...but gosh I wouldn't ask him for help right now - not unless I was hanging off a cliff and he was the only person walking by - then I might (only might))
I just get the feeling that your W may not want what she's got, but isn't able to take constructive steps forward either. IDK Eds - how much do you think 'thing' may have a bearing here?
The other thing I would mention is that quote from someone about WAS' minds - "It's sure messy in there, and you don't wanna get that stuff on you."
I guess the easy answer is if your W wants to talk, she will push for a specific plan to do that. Until or unless she does, I would keep on keeping on, not worry and make the most of your life.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
