D6 birthday is coming and since it's on a Saturday where I have her, WAW just asked to see her in the morning. I responded that I already made plans to go out of town the whole week-end, so maybe she could take D6 to lunch on the Friday. She replied:
No, I can't: they have an out-of-town activity. I would rather you talked to me: birthdays are important for us and the kids and they will only get more important. I find it sad that I can't see her on her birthday.
Here's my reply. I made these plans simply because it's my week-end with them and it's her birthday. I don't deserve to made feel guilty or even to suggest that I do anything against the best interest of the kids. We do what we can in the situation we're in.
To paraphrase you: I would have preferred that you talk to me before deciding to separate: the presence of both parents is important and will be increasingly so. I find it sad that I can't see her one week out of two. And yet, I don't make you feel guilty about it.
If it's a day off, perhaps you could take her to your office? I did it once before Christmas and she loved it. She sits to read and draw.
So? Is that a truth dart or just a revengeful thing to say? I'm upset that she can say "the kids are resilient!" when dumping me for OM, yet missing the exact day of the birthday is a problem.
I'm sending this by 5 pm EST (in 45 minutes). I don't want it to look like I mulled this over for hours and days.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
