I agree about the 'non-compatible' - I think that's just script for someone who was checked out of the M at that point.

Non-compatible normally arises pretty early on in the R....not after many years together..

That one should fall into the category of....believe nothing they say....

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus