Susana (6) - Feelin' Stronger Every Day

[Mozza]

Well, at least someone is getting some action on these boards!

This "I don't want to be a dick" statement is worrying me, especially that he lacks the self-awareness (or honesty?) to explain it. It sounds like he's conflicted between satisfying his needs (the S) and being a Nice Guy. It's awful for us to "be a dick" because we think that to have our needs satisfied, we need to tend to the needs of others. So now he's in a bind where the two contradict. Of course, you want him to stay because he's satisfied with you, not because he's scared of hurting you. You probably haven't gotten there yet but you seem to be making progress.

Perhaps because I'm a man, I'm not as enthusiastic as Wonka and others about your recent progress. You know that I ML a lot with my EX1 after we broke up and while I had no intention of R. I think you're making progress nevertheless. I don't know yet that this road leads all the way to R. But keep rolling.