Wife left me three weeks ago!

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Hi Complex, thank you for the great advice. I have read most of DB now. I have ordered DR now too. It is due tomorrow. You are right in that maybe she is reflecting her own personality and it is coming out as suspicious of me. I found out today that she has contacted a solicitor, although I think my post above outlined why.

Wife has come off night shifts and has a few days off. She will be house hunting tomorrow. My children mentioned that she has said she will take them to the cinema tomorrow morning. She has not mentioned this to me and I haven't asked about it. I did say this afternoon that I would like to take the children out on Sunday for a fun day out to the fair. It will be interesting to see if she comes with us. The place I would go to is about an hour drive way and it is the kind of place we would used to have gone to.

Regarding her anger and suspicion, I have just come back from her parents' house. The kids are happy, that's a good thing, but my wife, maybe being tired since she hasn't slept following working a night shift last night, was again mistrusting and called me a liar once more. The funny thing is that for all my faults one thing I am not is a liar. In fact I am so honest that it has caused problems in the last with not just my wife but others. I am being nothing but nice with my wife. She turned up unexpectedly at our house this afternoon whilst I was in the bath reading DB. She complained to me again, said I had a plan or agenda, but in the end accepted a lift to the kids' school, waited in the car whilst I collected the kids, and gave her and the kids a lift back to her parents'.

Upon arriving she really didn't want me to go into the house. Her mother invited me in and made me a cup of tea. I stayed about 30 minutes. Her father came home from work. Both her parents have been quite nice with me this last week. I think for all my complaints of them in the last they at least realise how hard this is, and they know exactly how stubborn their daughter can be. Her father asked me how I was, I said not good. My wife wasn't present so I spoke a little further, explaining how hard things were, they weren't right, the kids will suffer in the long term, and how I wish at some point she would reconsider things. He agreed with me on most points without saying too much. He said my wife hadn't really spoken to them about things much as she'd been in work a lot this week.

Let's see how the weekend goes. It's now a month apart but this will be the first weekend with no pleading, crying etc. It will be interesting to see if she contacts me, accepts invitation of day out. Fingers crossed as a full day out rather than just a meal or sat quietly in a cinema would be a big step forward I feel.