What a wonderful update. Two ML sessions! Wonderful.
I am going to say some things to make you think a bit more about where you are at. MWD states in her book that is okay for both spouses to ML when appropriate.
Now, keep in mind about the differences between men and women...based on what I've read. Men need the sex to feel the connection first before the emotions come. Women need to feel the emotions to feel connected first before engaging in ML.
Your H, to me, is tentative about connecting with you emotionally as I sense that he's not yet ready to be fully vulnerable which is what I think he meant by 'not being a d!ck.' That's okay because your recent 180s have confused him and yet delighted him. Keep going. You're on the right track.
At some point, H's wall will eventually crumble and there will be a real mutual bond between the two of you. It will be a while before that happens so you're going have to dig deep for some of that patience cookie.
Since you two have been GALing like crazy separately, I am thinking that you suggest that you two just go out for a fun event sometime next week. A pub with homemade brewry, improv show, etc. You two need more laughter and levity because those produce chemicals that bonds a couple.
