***NOTE- When I said "I talked to her" I meant DB Coach, NOT STBX!

BTW, DB Coach told me it would help to share with STBX that I asked my lawyer to expedite the process, the reason being that we seemed to do better working together when we had clear agreements. The only areas of tension we still have are where it's murky, and that it would benefit us both to conclude our business sooner.

She said this would help as it is collaborative and taking into account both of our needs and her decisions. She also said that it would benefit me to communicate this because it would clarify to STBX that I'm not plan B anymore. I didn't see why this was important as I don't really care if STBX thinks I'm plan B or not, but she said if it helped HER on her individual journey then it was giving her a gift. It's not really about anything between she and I. I can be on board with that.

Me:38 XW:38
T:11 years M:8 years
Kids: S14, D11, D7
BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15