Susana (6) - Feelin' Stronger Every Day

[Zues126]

Can't answer those questions, but one compass I've used to steer is asking myself this: Looking back in a year or five years, will I feel good about my decisions?

You might get hurt. You might remain attached or have expectations. There's a good chance you will, because it's possible that your H won't recommit to an M or if he does it will be a long time from now and you'll suffer from the loss before you have a chance to reconnect. But are your decisions made from a place of character, strength, doing what's best for your sitch and to support a man you committed to loving? Or are they made from fear, desperation, controlling/clinging behavior, that you will look back as degrading and cheapening to the person you are?

If you are making this decision out of strength and love and are willing to accept pain as a result because you want to live by your values and character, AND it's "working" in your sitch and supported by your DB coach, I am 100% for it.

This too shall pass. I doubt in 3 months you'll be in the same sitch. Maybe not in 3 weeks. So it's not a lifelong ordeal. Just keep making decisions in line with your values and mission.