Wife left me three weeks ago!

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I'm beginning to feel slightly better for longer periods of time. I miss my wife and kids like mad and it is strange waking up in our house and they are not there. having said that, I am slightly getting used to a routine without them being here. I occasionally in the night imagine that I hear one of them shout something, like daddy, or hear a door close, or something similar. It is an odd feeling because these things used to happen all the time but now there's just silence.

I had my first coaching session last night with Amanda. It was excellent. She didn't necessarily give me anything new as I spent a lot if time explaining the situation but she did give positive encouragement on things I've been doing right, what should continue, and those things which must never happen. The best response I've had in the short term has been to be nice to my wife. I had tried not initiating conversation and I'd tried ending activities early, both with varying degrees of success. I have started in the last few days keeping a journal of changes I see in her linked to my actions. I plan to fine tune the things going right and abandon anything that doesn't appear to work. I have the stamina to go through everything to win her back over time. I am going to 180 a few more 180s to mix things up, I've been keeping contact minimum via texts and calls, and as stated previously I have seen a change of her laughing with me yesterday, asking how ny day went, if I had a good time, things like these which haven't happened in a while. I experienced some backlash when she pre empted our.meal out by saying don't get your hopes up, we are just out for tea. I did bot respond negatively though, I just said, I know, we are just here for our meal.

Keeping this online diary has been a great idea, it's a good release to get thoughts out 'on paper' and I would recommend anyone reading who hasn't done so to start something like this now.

My wife has a few days off work coming up now so it will be interesting to see what happens, whether she contacts to do anything or whether she continues along the road I expect if house hunting and wanting to decorate our house in order to sell it.