Complex No. 6 - The turtle and the rabbit

[25yearsmlc]

After reading another thread I wonder if I should finally fkn man up!!? I should just let her go, give her what she wants, take what I need too and get the hell out of here. If I stick around like this, she'll never gain respect for me.
She wants a legal separation now, why don't I just give it to her ????? At this point it doesn't make sense fighting it, does it? I wonder why LS now, not straight D. Out of good intentions to help me so I can keep certain benefits like tax and health insurance? Or isn't she ready for D yet? That could be bc of many reasons, most likely NOT bc she's not sure about D ..but to get out of M "smoother" without upsetting her family too much; making an easier transition.
Is this going to make it even harder for me bc there is still this "rest" that I can hold on to bc its not a D?!? Or is it good bc it's buying time? Although it's pretty much the same than D.
Did anyone in here have to deal with LS? What's W's logic here? Should I just give her what she wants and move on like a man?

Complex

Please Stop overthinking. I filed for a sep for 3 reasons:

I was not ready to divorce my h;

But I needed to protect our assets so he wouldn't mortgage "invest" our house for his heroes in Alaska,

and

b/c the kids & I needed health insurance then...

So what if your wife is trying to be kind to you? So what if she's trying to make it easier

IF IT DOES HELP YOU, then let it!

This is actually all up to you. IF YOU want to see it as a "delay" of your growth, then it will be and so you should not delay things

but since it probably would benefit YOU to have a LS and it MIGHT mean she's not quite ready to file for a Div

why are you making this more complicated? You want to force her to declare something? I would not push her on the "whys" of it.

To ME, I would see the LS as a gift for you. But if you cannot handle it,
then so be it.

If you feel that you MUST be divorced before you can do anything productive with your life

do what you must.