Wife during deployment EA/PA ongoing #4

[25yearsmlc]

Ok that is what i was thinking, so if she still wants to talk after what i have to say what then just kindly tell her "w what i have said is all i came to say, I do not feel continuing this conversation will provide any progress." how does that sound

It sounds wordy & unnecessary. Say what you want, then get up to leave,

with a polite "see ya later" gesture. Then go.


IF IF & ONLY IF - SHE wants to tell you something, then you politely listen.

Hear her.

Chances are, you will feel Either 1) hurt/offended OR 2) confused/hopeful -

but for either/both of those circumstances, just say you "need time to process that" and then get moving.

If I had to predict, I'd expect her to say something short & simple, perhaps angry, and that you will only digest much later.

If VERY pressed to say more OR if you feel the need to defend yourself - KEEP IT SHORT. You can always say "If I had it all to do over again, there are lots of things I'd do differently",

but don't apologize for anything other than what you truly feel YOU did wrong. Remember that you CANNOT control how she views you. Even if you could control it, it could change in a day or month or year...

This is about you letting her go. (IF need be, maybe just say that.)