I think the whole 'expectations' thing works both ways. We already know it's a bad idea to have positive expectations - because those can set you right up for a fall.
But, it's also not a good idea to have negative expectations - because those mean you just spend a bunch of time worrying - and then may be pleasantly surprised and cross that you wasted so much energy fretting.
Best to be neutral - I saw the following little saying recently and liked it - Tomorrow is here. All is well. And for you Edz - ultimately - whatever your W may or may not be doing - all will be well with you.
Now then, it bothers me a little that you're saying you can't really move on in terms of finances and the relationship. What further steps could you take to get yourself to a more 'as if' position. Nothing irreversible if you don't want it to be - but steps that truly help you feel that your life is your own, and 'by jove' you're enjoying it?
Regardless of what your W may be doing, how can you get your current groove to be what you DO want it to be? If you think about it, all of this is within your gift...these are things you control, lovely Edz...so, what's next for you??
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
