WAW-- LRT in action

[SadDood]

Last night she text me a picture of a "happiness" quote that basically says "Happiness begins with you". I just casually replied "100% in agreement". A few minutes later, I text her "What's something you've always wanted to do, but haven't?" And she started a casual list of some of her bucket list items. I genuinely liked her list. I made a few of my own and asked her if she felt like making a bucket list? She responded "Sure!"
For the next two hours we text ideas and commented on each other's ideas. It was actually kind of fun. A lot of emoticons and LOL's. Told her we need to do more things like this, anything but talk about the R. She agreed.

By the end, I sent her a link to MWD's Walk Away Wives youtube video. 5 minutes later I get a text that reads "HOLY F---!! I feel like that woman has been a ghost watching our marriage for the past 8 years" I said, "I know, right?" and she responded "WOW! Thank you for sending!"

I never let on that I've been to this site or know anything about DB/DR. Passed it off as I was casually searching youtube.

I know I'm not supposed to talk about the future, but I mentioned that if I proactively planned one of the fun weekend trips if she'd be interested in going? She simply responded, "Absolutely! You've never taken the time to plan anything, arrange sitters for the kids, or get dressed up for dates. I find it so attractive that you're looking into this stuff."

I'm obviously not back to where we once were, but I feel so much more optimistic. I know I'm not doing the steps right, but I'm seizing opportunities when they arise and learning more about my W. I think things are going better than expected, especially compared to where they were 2 weeks ago.